I normally don’t speak on celebrity stuff, especially public feuds, but this past Tuesday, I found myself being sucked in, and then triggered, by the unfolding of the family drama between comedian, Mo’Nique, and her oldest son, Shalon Watkins.
NO. Many of us have strained relationships with our family. It took me 30 years to write publicly about my deceased child's father's abuse, and I grappled a lot with the decision; ultimately made it because I thought it was important and instructive to other abuse victims, especially those who are too young to understand what's happening. This is absolutely straight narcissism, and I'm seeing more and more narcissistic behavior from people on social media (not celebrities, though they think they are). It's troubling.
You are so right, Elizabeth. Social media has a way of bringing out narcissists. I don’t give them any energy, because the minute you engage they will suck the life out of you! When she posted his text messages I was beyond done. She’s trash for trying to publicly hurt her son 🗑️
Yup. I'm actually listening to this audiobook called "Snakes in Suits" because I've run up against one too many narcissists and I'm trying to figure out how to avoid them. Doing this sort of public humiliation campaign to protect her false image is textbook. The book also talks about how environmental and cultural conditions can normalize and breed narcissistic and pathological qualities; I think social media is one of the worst "environments" in this regard. Psychopaths are set up to win. It's tragic and makes me want to just stay under water. Lol. Thanks for calling this out. You're always a real one.
I would never share private texts between my child and I. Even the good ones, unless I had their consent. Mo’ proved the point that she’s a narcissist and seemingly married a man that feeds into that for his own personal gain. Whatever hurt she has, she’s inflicting it upon her son and it seems that he’s been trying to move past that and heal. I believe she spoke on him in order to make her interview seem more interesting. We all know about the old beef she’s been having, but we never heard about her son. She bought him up in order to make herself seem more relevant, not considering the further damage she was visiting upon him. I hope this young man heals from her.
I agree…Sidney only adds fuel to the fire. I think he encourages her toxic behavior so she’ll remain alienated from others - that’s a control issue. I’m glad we are having open dialogues about emotional abuse and neglect and how it impacts us as adults. Hopefully we can save the next generation by showing them it’s okay to be emotionally available and what that looks like ❤️
I would never. I’ve since realized my parents were emotionally unavailable to myself and my older sister. We frequently go in to rants about how yes they provided for us but No we don’t have that parent child emotional connection with them. It’s a sad thing to realize but I pour so much love, attention, time and life into my own children (4) it has helped me heal (slightly) and I realized early on that I never want my children to feel the way I feel about my parents. I love them but the relationship and connection is not there.
Thank you for writing this piece and sharing. I had no idea about Monique's son situation but what you just described sounds like a classic case of narcissistic/toxic parenting.
I myself am estranged from all my parents (biological and step) for the same narcisstic shenanigans. It's hurtful to hear people calling him entitled for something SHE is primarily responsible for.
I'm glad you can see through the BS.
I do not have children but would most definitely not cross their boundaries in that way. Lack of boundaries is prevalent in homes where there is a narcissist parent. I don't agree with how Monique was treated for the Precious film, but she needs to hold herself accountable for that strained relationship with her son.
My condolences to you and your fam for your son ❤️
Thank you so much for reading, and yes, Mo’Nique and her husband are displaying classic narcissistic behavior. You never win with people like them. And like you’ve done with your parents, sometimes it’s best to just set up some healthy boundaries (which usually consists of no contact) and moving forward with a good therapist on speed dial. My heart goes out to Shalon, but I’m glad he is finding peace.
NO. Many of us have strained relationships with our family. It took me 30 years to write publicly about my deceased child's father's abuse, and I grappled a lot with the decision; ultimately made it because I thought it was important and instructive to other abuse victims, especially those who are too young to understand what's happening. This is absolutely straight narcissism, and I'm seeing more and more narcissistic behavior from people on social media (not celebrities, though they think they are). It's troubling.
You are so right, Elizabeth. Social media has a way of bringing out narcissists. I don’t give them any energy, because the minute you engage they will suck the life out of you! When she posted his text messages I was beyond done. She’s trash for trying to publicly hurt her son 🗑️
Yup. I'm actually listening to this audiobook called "Snakes in Suits" because I've run up against one too many narcissists and I'm trying to figure out how to avoid them. Doing this sort of public humiliation campaign to protect her false image is textbook. The book also talks about how environmental and cultural conditions can normalize and breed narcissistic and pathological qualities; I think social media is one of the worst "environments" in this regard. Psychopaths are set up to win. It's tragic and makes me want to just stay under water. Lol. Thanks for calling this out. You're always a real one.
I need to check out that book!!!! Thanks for sharing. We have to catch up soon.
Yes, it's very informative. It's scary out there, I tell you. Yes, definitely! I'm pretty free beginning of March!
I’ll shoot you an email.
I would never share private texts between my child and I. Even the good ones, unless I had their consent. Mo’ proved the point that she’s a narcissist and seemingly married a man that feeds into that for his own personal gain. Whatever hurt she has, she’s inflicting it upon her son and it seems that he’s been trying to move past that and heal. I believe she spoke on him in order to make her interview seem more interesting. We all know about the old beef she’s been having, but we never heard about her son. She bought him up in order to make herself seem more relevant, not considering the further damage she was visiting upon him. I hope this young man heals from her.
I agree…Sidney only adds fuel to the fire. I think he encourages her toxic behavior so she’ll remain alienated from others - that’s a control issue. I’m glad we are having open dialogues about emotional abuse and neglect and how it impacts us as adults. Hopefully we can save the next generation by showing them it’s okay to be emotionally available and what that looks like ❤️
I would never. I’ve since realized my parents were emotionally unavailable to myself and my older sister. We frequently go in to rants about how yes they provided for us but No we don’t have that parent child emotional connection with them. It’s a sad thing to realize but I pour so much love, attention, time and life into my own children (4) it has helped me heal (slightly) and I realized early on that I never want my children to feel the way I feel about my parents. I love them but the relationship and connection is not there.
I totally understand Shelia and I’m glad you realized their mistakes and are doing right by your own kids❤️❤️
Thank you for writing this piece and sharing. I had no idea about Monique's son situation but what you just described sounds like a classic case of narcissistic/toxic parenting.
I myself am estranged from all my parents (biological and step) for the same narcisstic shenanigans. It's hurtful to hear people calling him entitled for something SHE is primarily responsible for.
I'm glad you can see through the BS.
I do not have children but would most definitely not cross their boundaries in that way. Lack of boundaries is prevalent in homes where there is a narcissist parent. I don't agree with how Monique was treated for the Precious film, but she needs to hold herself accountable for that strained relationship with her son.
My condolences to you and your fam for your son ❤️
Thank you so much for reading, and yes, Mo’Nique and her husband are displaying classic narcissistic behavior. You never win with people like them. And like you’ve done with your parents, sometimes it’s best to just set up some healthy boundaries (which usually consists of no contact) and moving forward with a good therapist on speed dial. My heart goes out to Shalon, but I’m glad he is finding peace.